I dont care what your reasons are, its NOT ok to go behind someone's back. Its NOT ok to lie to their face. Its NOT ok. Period.
"But it was out of concern" Try talking to the person you're concerned about then. Instead of ignoring what they say for hours then getting a group of people together behind their back to talk about them.
"But we didn't say anything negative" I dont give a shit. What you did was take private conversations and make it everyone elses business. What you did was have people talk to me then report back how those conversations went. What you did -ALL OF YOU- was breach my privacy and trust and 100% lose my respect. Then you all failed to take responsibility for any of your parts in it and act like I'm being unreasonable. I'm not the one that went behind your backs. It's not unreasonable to be pissed about breach of trust. You dont have to like how I went about calling you out on it but I dont like that I cant trust people I believed in to tell the instigators of schemes like this to fuck off instead of participating in them. You want an apology for calling you out on unacceptable behavior- you'll die waiting for one. Just like I'll die waiting for any of you to admit these actions were NOT ok despite your potentially good intentions behind them.
"I didn't lie" Bullshit. Using a loophole does not negate your responsibility in dishonesty and it is 100% dishonest to allow me to believe that someone else was responsible for the added stress in my life being brought by an unexpected visit that was instigated by your behind-my-back group message. NOT OK.
